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Find Help To Stop Smoking In South West Surrey

If you’ve been inspired by No Smoking Day to stop smoking, let’s look at ways you can gain control over your smoking habit and find help to finally stop smoking.

Do you find that you often ask yourself these questions?

  • How will stopping smoking help me feel better?
  • What is it that I value about not smoking?

The decision to stop smoking is a single act of will while being a non-smoker is a series of actions over time to create a new behaviour that allows the individual to control the impulses that make them crave a cigarette and ultimately no longer think about smoking in this way.

Are You A Smoker Or A Person Who Smokes?

Does your limiting belief say: “I am addicted to cigarettes.”

This belief could be causing you to see yourself as a smoker, not a person who smokes. Overcoming this self-limiting belief is what can give you the tools to quit smoking.

Your limiting belief often originates from the influences of friends, family or the people who have shaped your smoking behaviour. If they see you as a smoker it can be a self-perpetuating cycle that doesn’t allow you to take ownership of your smoking habit and control it.

But remember, the one and only one thing you have control over in your life are your choices.

This is a very powerful moment: a light bulb moment and may make your head spin! When you apply this concept you can make the choice to stop smoking and identify yourself as a non-smoker.

Your self-belief and the act of taking control holds the key to all your thoughts and choices….giving you the will power and tools to enable you to stop smoking for good.

This is a massive turning point and extremely empowering, making many people feel better when they find themselves in control of their smoking behaviour, rather than give their power away to something like a cigarette.

“The most powerful force in the entire universe is a human being trying to remain consistent with who they see themselves as.” Seth Ellsworth

How I Stopped Smoking – A Case Study

Julian wanted to say a few words about how he quit smoking;

“I started smoking when I was 15 years. I wanted to belong to the gang, be cool and be liked by my friends and peers. At 38 years old I was unfit, unhealthy and spent more money on cigarettes than I liked. I had a bad, wet cough and couldn’t walk into our nearest town from my house, even though it is only a 15/20-minute walk.

I never saw myself looking like I did at only 38 years old: I looked drawn, my skin on my face felt dry, I smelled of stale cigarette smoke, and I was always short of money as I spent a lot of money on cigarettes.

My wife and I argued a lot and we were not close anymore; she does not smoke you see. My parents refused to let me smoke in their house or in their garden as they have labelled it as a smoke-free zone, so I didn’t go there often. Most of my friends have given up smoking and hence I would stand outside the pub smoking alone in the cold. I felt like the last person still smoking and knew I had to make a choice.

I feel great now. I had the support from my wife and parents as soon as I set a date to give up the dreaded cigarettes. I went to a local hypnotherapist to increase my motivation and control my cravings. I learnt a breathing technique and how to be in control over my habits and behaviours. I have my best friend as my mentor and guide in case I am tempted to go back to smoking again. I cleaned my house, my car, desk etc and also my negative way of thinking and now I feel so much better and much more positive. I am doing a 10 K run in September for charity. I’ve finally found something I like more than cigarettes… I am so very grateful.”

Support To Quit Smoking

Here are some key factors that help people to successfully quit smoking:

  1. Support from friends and family,
  2. Support from a friend to motivate you, keep tabs on you and remind you of your goal,
  3. Nicotine replacement products such as gum, nasal sprays and lozenges and help,
  4. NHS Stop Smoking Service provides local support through Surrey Stop Smoking Service, 0845 602 3608, stop.smoking@surreycc.gov.uk or Quit4life Hampshire Stop Smoking Service, 0845 602 4663, text QUIT to 60123, quit4life@nhs.net
  5. Reflexology can be effective, local reflexologist Rachel Carlse has experience of treating smokers 07790171115, www.feetinfleet.co.uk,
  6. Evidence has shown that Clinical hypnosis as an intervention to a smoking habit has a 40 – 50% success rate. The more sessions the client has the better for motivation and skill development.

Find out more about how hypnotherapy can help you stop smoking here.

Anxiety And Panic Attacks: What Is Your Mind Doing To You?

Everyone experiences anxiety or panic attacks sometime in their lives. We’re all designed to protect ourselves from life-threatening or dangerous situations. Have you ever heard of the “fight” or “flight” response? This is when, due to stress, a huge surge of hormones such as adrenalin or cortisol is released telling your body to fight the danger or run from it. Without this humans would have died out years ago!

When you’re stressed, these elevated hormones, change the way we behave and our actions. For those of us who are constantly under stress – due to our work, family life or relationships – these hormones can remain at high levels in our body, leading to chronic symptoms of stress: panic attacks or acute anxiety.

In this post, I will be looking at how to identify the triggers that cause anxiety and panic attacks, and offer some advice for coping with them. If you think you may be suffering from stress and want more advice, please don’t hesitate to contact me.

Anxiety And Panic Attacks Are Not Uncommon

With constant pressures from work, family, and relationships, many of life’s demands can cause anxiety and panic attacks. It can affect everything you do and get in the way of addressing the issues that cause them. Acute anxiety can affect how you think, feel, behave and how you cope with everyday events.

If you think that you, your partner, a friend or family member is suffering from anxiety, here are some of the common signs:

  • Sweating
  • Loss of appetite
  • Problems with sleeping
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Panic Attacks
  • Irritability
  • Anxiousness
  • Low self-esteem
  • Short temper
  • Overly cautiousness
  • Alcoholism
  • Muscle tension or pain
  • Recurrent headaches/dizziness
  • Acne

Managing your stress in daily life

In themselves, stress and anxiety are not illnesses, however, they can cause very serious illnesses if not addressed. Recognising the symptoms of stress as early as possible is so important, enabling you to find ways to manage it, and avoid adopting unhealthy coping methods such as smoking or drinking. By spotting the early signs you’re also able to prevent symptoms getting worse, which could potentially cause serious complications such as panic attacks or high blood pressure.

Luckily for us, there are many things we can do to manage our stress more effectively. We can learn how to use deep breathing techniques, relaxation techniques, start exercising regularly and learn self-hypnosis/meditation.

Recognising your stress/anxiety triggers

A diary is a great way of identifying what’s causing your stress. I suggest making a note of your stressful episodes for 2-4 weeks, which will help you spot your triggers and then address them:

  • What were you doing at the time of the stressful episode?
  • Make a note of the date, place and time.
  • Who were you with?
  • How did you feel emotionally?
  • What were you thinking?
  • How did you feel physically?
  • Use a stress scale (0-10) 1 is the least stressed you feel and 10 is the most stressed you could ever feel)

You can then use the diary to:

  • Work out what triggers your stress/anxiety
  • Work out how you operate under pressure and when you get stressed
  • Develop better coping mechanisms to deal with the stress and whether they work for you or not

Take action to tackle your stress quickly

There’s no single method that will work for everyone. However, there are simple things you can do to change and help relieve stress and anxiety such as relaxation techniques, exercise and talking to other people. Who would have thought that simply breathing and talking could actually reduce stress?! How cool!

There are some great tips here on the NHS’ website for managing stress: 10 Stress Busters

Get support for your stress

You might be thinking, “I have tried exercising, I have tried relaxing and yet still nothing still seems to be working. Why?” Don’t worry, Stress Anxiety Hypnotherapy can help you relax, regulate your sleep patterns and improve your relationship with people around you.

Hypnotherapy helps by exploring your inner-mind and find ways to change your perspective; making positive changes for a calmer and better lifestyle.

If you’re a little sceptical about hypnotherapy, and most people are!, you may like to read this blog post – Dispelling The Myths About Hypnotherapy

How do you deal with growing old?

Adjusting to the passing years and “senior citizen” status can be quite a challenge. People often focus on the physical aspects of growing old but, in some ways, adapting emotionally and mentally can be even more important.

The good news is that with the right approach, you can be motivated to take on new tasks and live your life with energy and vitality.

I help clients to continue to learn and grow as they get older, so their life-changing is made easier. As an example Michael talked to me about the challenges he next birthday brings:

“I hesitate to tell people my age or that its my birthday because they might get the wrong idea that I am growing old and giving up. They might begin to feel sorry for me and I would not want that to happen.

But I am not giving up. I am moving on ahead…”

Growing old brings inevitable changes but many of these changes are positive. Age brings increased resourced of experienced, perspective and wisdom.

On the negative side, other people can have a constrained view about what is possible for older people. That’s why it’s important that we live our own life according to our own values and capabilities to experience as much growth as we can, as long as we can.

The following poem by Terry Q titled “Adjusting to passing years” sums this up well for me:

I thirst much sooner quicker now
Tire faster… work much less –
Not allowed, restrained by those
Who so much care for me.

I tread the paths much slower now
breathe a bit more heavy edge
hover in still shadows watching
waiting for a slip in chance
for something safe permissible
a 70-year old may do.

hawk-like they watch my every move
Polite, concerned, considerate
my indiscretions barrier bound
I bow, I smile quiet step aside.

They really care for me, I know
and that is what really matters

Not bored or helpless whining sad
My life cup filled to overflow
All of me is there full there
and I too care for them my ways

I care for them I really do
that is what also matters.

I am not a senior citizen but none of us is as young as we were! I seek to age with as much wisdom and grace as possible and to this end, I have developed practices to help myself and my clients continue to learn and grow.

So I make sure to try new things and focus on the good aspects of getting old.

 

I look for good examples of people staying active whilst getting old. Some of these are celebrities (like Rod Stewart or Mick Jagger!) but others are friends or members of my own family. They remind me of my future and that there is always hope.

I have made plans for my future and I continue to adapt these over time. I learn something new every month, I help out at a charity shop for a few days of the week, I travel regularly to meet my friends that I have not seen in years etc.

I also read a lot and know what to expect with my ageing process and made plans for my eventual death, meaning all of it is less scary to me.

Being positive and grateful for the full life I have led is one of the main things I start my day with.

By doing some form of exercise every day (which could be as simple as a walk around the block and eating healthily) I have been able to keep healthy in mind and body.

If you are reading this and are feeling old, drawn, tired all the time and less energy, remember this:

Ageing is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.
-Betty Friedan.

Hypnotherapy can help you get to feel more energetic, cultivate positive thoughts and manage the ageing process with optimism and grace.

Contact me to find out how hypnotherapy can help you feel confident and help you with the next stage of your journey.

Book your free 30-minute phone consultation with me.

Also, Read more on how to develop your self-confidence here: https://formindssake.com/2018/05/29/how-to-develop-self-confidence/

Never give up on your dreams

Never give up on your dreams

Most people don’t believe in themselves and find it difficult to think big. When things get tough they often give up on their dreams and don’t achieve the things they are capable of.

But I want people never to give up on themselves. I want them to be positive and resilient, live a full life and be able to achieve success with their goals.

To illustrate, I will tell you a story about Puddles, the frog.

Puddles was a handsome prince that had been turned into a frog by a wicked witch. A lesser frog would have given up but Puddles always believed in himself.

A princess came around. She saw the handsome “prince” in him and agreed to his request to kiss him…mmmuaaaaahh!

Puddles thought that he would live happily ever after!

But real life is not always as simple and easy as a fairy tale. And sometime later, one afternoon while he was swimming in the Royal lake, Puddles had a rather scary encounter with a hungry stork.

Other frogs would have lost out in that encounter but not our Puddles. Despite facing what seemed like an impossible situation, Puddles focussed on what he could do, took action and saved the day for himself.

 

And therein lies a lesson for the rest of us.

After his escape from the stork, Puddles got back to his palace and began to think about how he could make himself helpful to others.

He thought about the many people he knew who did not like the way they looked and felt about themselves. Ugly frogs in themselves they were looking at rather than the handsome princes/princesses they really were.

In a flash of enlightenment he knew what he had to do.

To reach out and help people see themselves as they really were, he decided to become a Therapist.

He did that…and he hasn’t looked back since!

I am Andrea and I am not a frog…or a prince!….but in some ways my story is similar.

I faced really difficult times in my life when I almost felt like giving up. But I was able to persevere and overcome challenges…even when circumstances seemed really bad.

And these difficult times provided deep motivation for me to become a clinical hypnotherapist and to help other people. I now help my clients through difficult times so they never give up and can continue to pursue their dreams.
“Tell me about it! I’m listening!”

I know that sometimes unpleasant things in life happen that are quite beyond your control. Other people can treat you badly. People around you may be disregarding you or taking you for granted. Your relationships can turn bitter, sometimes through no fault of your own. Situations at home or at work can be oppressive and even scary.

How do we deal with these issues?
We have to start by looking after ourselves and sometimes that means getting help from a professional. Its only when we are happy with ourselves that we are able to help others.
We can then go about helping relatives, friends and maybe even strangers see and bring out the really beautiful part of themselves.
Sometimes we try to cope through hard times by ourselves but often its much more powerful and effective to reach out for help.

A professional clinical hypnotherapist can provide empathy and support but, more importantly, the tools to help you see life’s challenges differently and to change bad habits and overcome fears that may have been holding you back.

If you want any information on how Clinical Hypnosis can help you be more confident, reach your goals believe in yourself and never give up, call me now or book your 15 minute free phone consultation http://bit.ly/1GG130U

Hypnotherapy can help you not just dream big but give you the confidence to pursue those dreams actively and achieve greater success in your life.

Are IBS symptoms restricting your life?

                                                        Are IBS symptoms restricting your life?

Irritable Bowel Syndrome symptoms affects the everyday life of thousands of people in the UK. Sadly, sufferers often live with the symptoms for years without finding either a proper diagnosis of IBS or a way of managing (let alone eliminating) those symptoms.

How can you tell if the symptoms of IBS are affecting your life?

Does your tummy often feel like it is churning and you have a cramping pain in your gut? Also you feel your anxiety/stress building and you need to be near a toilet all day?

The UK National Institute of Clinical Excellence advises GPs to check patients for IBS if they experience any of these “ABC” symptoms for six months or more:

• Abdominal pain or cramps
• Bloating
• Change in bowel movements – diarrhoea, constipation or both

There are other symptoms, which include excess wind and gas, nausea or tiredness that can indicate IBS.

So are you experiencing the symptoms of IBS and not sure where to turn? Have your seen GP’s, specialists, consultants, had blood tests, ultrasounds, sigmoidoscopy or colonoscopy etc?

 

Whilst experiencing the symptoms of IBS, you may at the same time feel anxious and that something is not right with your life.

This can be a message from your brain or from your tummy telling you that there is too much stress in your life.

But here is the good news. You can learn to deal your problem and live your life free from anxiety and stress that exacerbates your IBS symptoms.

Please take heart!

Clinical hypnosis can help you reduce your anxiety and stress, and you can learn techniques to live your life free from the pain of IBS. This does not involve long-term medication, or have any side-effects and can be tailored to suit each person and their specific needs.

Adam was a client of mine with IBS and here is his story:
I have suffered from IBS since I was a young boy. I had been to my GP many times, had various tests, and cut out various foods. But still, my IBS flared up all my life. I am 30 years old now and feel that, until recently, I have not lived at all since I needed to be near a loo all the time.
My GP told me there was nothing physically wrong with me and suggested I look for alternative therapies such as hypnosis. After researching IBS further on the Internet I found Andrea and I contacted her to get help. It felt like taking a leap into the unknown but I emailed her to see if she could help.
After a couple of emails, I booked an initial hypnotherapy session. During this session, we discussed my IBS history and figured out that I was not born with the symptoms of IBS (cramping or tummy ache). At around the age of 10, my IBS symptoms started: there was a lot of bloating and discomfort with my digestive system. Our sessions helped me recognise and deal with a personal trauma I’d had around the age of 6.
I was not sure what to expect from the hypnotherapy session but I went to our appointment with an open mind. Initially, I found hypnotherapy a strange experience but I soon got used to the relaxation and guided meditation. The very next day, the toilet routine that had dictated the majority of my life virtually disappeared altogether. More and more improvements and life adjustments came with each additional session.
After a total of four sessions and a follow-up, my life has radically changed for the better. I now do things I could never do before and I am enjoying life and all its aspects”. Contacting Andrea was the best decision I have ever made.
Just remember to be open-minded and willing to take that step!

If you are worried about your IBS or want to more information about how hypnotherapy can help you with your problem, please contact me on 07967151790 or email me: info@formindssake.com to book your free 30-minute phone consultation with me.

I look forward to speaking with you!

Andrea Smith (MBPsS)

 

Your guide to stop smoking for good, with For Minds Sake

 The very first few weeks without a cigarette are the hardest without hypnotherapy.

Your body is fighting your addiction to cigarettes.

You can get through the physical cravings for a cigarette.

Find the right method that works for you.

Talking to the right professional makes a huge difference to your chances to quit for Good and stay that way.

Quitting for good works if you Believe that you can do it.

Clinical Hypnotherapy has been successfully used to quit smoking because it gets right to the source of your smoking habit. Hypnotherapy is all about helping you make the changes in your habits and behaviours, but it does not make you do what you do not want to do.

“Change takes place when people take action. Real change takes place when people persist in taking action over a period of time”.

 

 Why would you go to a hypnotherapist to stop smoking?

  • To stop smoking.
  • To experience guided relaxation.
  • To learn how to tap away the cravings to smoke.
  • To be in control of your smoking habit.
  • To effectively use mental and emotional strategies to become a confident non-smoker.
  • To participate in a skilful blend of information exchange, guidance and therapeutic techniques to create a permanent behavioural exchange.
  • To become aware of the real drivers of your smoking habit and to develop alternative coping strategies.

Most smokers will say that they are addicted to nicotine but they misuse the
 term addicted. People who are truly addicted to a substance need to have
 that substance to stop going into withdrawal. I am speaking of dealing with
 those symptoms to an addiction that can be life-threatening in some cases. I have worked with quit smoking
 as well as other addictions and the difference between them is huge.

When one stops smoking cigarettes or other nicotine based substances, they may become irritable, feel as if something is missing, feel uncomfortable or feel a desperate urge to light a 
cigarette because that is what they do after a meal, or when they go to the toilet or have a coffee.

How can Hypnotherapy help you to stop smoking? 

  • For Minds Sake can help your motivation and to gain serious willpower to quit smoking.
  • Clinical hypnotherapy techniques are much more likely to help you quit smoking rather than by using willpower alone.
  • It also provides an opportunity for you to see yourself as feeling great and a confident non-smoker.
  • The hypnotherapist will teach you ways to relaxation techniques that help with stress/anxiety that makes you reach out for a cigarette in the first place.
  • Self- hypnosis is also taught that can use to feel calm and in control and not giving your control to a cigarette stick.

You will also keep a record of your progress as you go through the stages of stop smoking (writing in a journal):

  1. Think about the reasons why you started to smoke in the first place, why you keep doing so and further where are you likely to smoke.
  2. Managing your triggers like going to the gym, keep busy, take deep slow breaths, get your family and friends to support you and finally keep the reasons why you quit in the first place in a note in your wallet to remind yourself your motivation.
  3. On the day you have quit avoiding temptation get support and handling the stress will make this an easier process.
  4. Relax and get plenty of sleep.

Once you have stop smoking, you will look back at the money, energy, time and life you have wasted on this habit.

Call me, Andrea Smith to find out more about how Clinical Hypnotherapy can help, so that you can finally being able to breath easier because you have Quit Smoking.

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